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Your Story
by WPR

I’ve never met a man.  That is to say I’ve never truly met another human being.  I’ve met their story.  That is to say the story they tell themselves and others.  Needless to say, there are usually discrepancies between their story and their reality.  Not that people don’t tell the truth.   Often they do.  But most people embellish that truth quite a bit.  Others are clearly delusional.  Their story and their lives just don’t match up.

Wouldn’t it be shocking to meet someone for the first time and then have that person say something like, “I’ve got a story but I’m not my story.”  What would you call such a person anyway? Genuine? Authentic? Real?  honest? In recovery? In therapy? What would you say in response?  Would you proceed to tell them your story?  Who are you without your story?

What do you say to another person without your story?

What would you say if a friend called you up and said, “I want to come over but I don’t want to talk.  I just want to be with you.”  We’d probably ask what’s wrong.  Worse than that, we might actually ask if there’s something we can “do”, even when nothing’s being asked to be “done.”  Would you honor the request?  Would you say, “Come over.  We’ll just sit together.” Wouldn’t it be nice to have a friend that would just allow you to “be” with them.

Most of the time when we think of our friends we think about what we’re going to say or do.  I’m just saying maybe we should give some thought to who we’re going to “be” when we’re with our friends.  There’s nothing wrong with saying or doing things with your friends.  Just recognize and be mindful of the power silence contains.  Silence is pregnant with meaning and answers.  Just try it.

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